Talking About Emotions with Dr. Andrea Wojnicki on the Talk About Talk Podcast

I had a great time talking about emotions with Dr. Andrea Wojnicki on the Talk About Talk Podcast. Check out the episode here.

In my closing statement, I summarize why understanding your emotions and relationship dynamics is important. Basically this knowledge gives you the power to show up fully in your relationships and foster that ones that matter to you!

"A lot of the times you might sit there and say, oh, that person's kind of making me feel bad. I promise you, it's not them. It's you.....if you start with the assumption that it's you, now all of a sudden you have the responsibility and the ability to go do something about it. Start investing in yourself by learning to meditate, learning to regulate your emotions, learning what anger and sadness feels like in your body and start to also pick up communication tools and practicing them....how to speak your boundaries, how to express your needs, how to make demands of people, how to say no to people, and from that space with all those tools, all your relationships are going to improve. Once you learn to express yourself differently, people are just automatically going to respond to you differently. That's a worthy endeavour.

And the last thing I want to say is, if you do your work, and the counterpart isn’t matching you, then you’ve learned something valuable about that relationship and you (may) want to walk away or put some…contingencies in place to protect you from (these) people. So not only does this (knowledge and skill set) deepen relationships, but it will show you which are the good ones in your life, and which are the bad ones. I think that’s an amazing thing to know because then you can just invest your time in the people that matter to you."

I hope you enjoy this episode, we covered a lot of great content in a short amount of time. We talk about what are emotions, the role of emotional expressions in relationships, the influence of culture on emotional expressions, and how to manage your relationships using emotional expression hacks (based on some of my own research!). Andrea shares a great blog post following every episode, which includes key-points and takeaways. I highly recommend. Here is a summary of our episode: https://talkabouttalk.com/emotional-expressions-blog/

Related Books and Resources:

• “Emotions Revealed: Recognizing faces and feelings to improve communication and emotional life” Paul Ekman – https://amzn.to/3fhtchV

• “What Makes Love Last?: How to build trust and avoid betrayal” Gottman, J., & Silver, N. – https://amzn.to/3b44ZZ8

• “Emotional Intelligence: why it can matter more than I.Q.” Daniel Goleman – https://amzn.to/2SzrG0Z

• Berkeley Emotional Intelligence quiz – https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/quizzes/ei_quiz

• “Atlas of Emotions” interactive tool – http://atlasofemotions.org/

• Posture & Breathing podcast episode – https://talkabouttalk.com/43-posture-breathing-with-dr-nadine-kelly-yogimd/

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